Family hold gender reveal party for daughter, eight, to begin her trans journey

Nikki and Graham Scott’s gender reveal party started out like any other.

The couple, from Ontario, Canada, celebrated the momentous occasion as they revealed the gender of their baby to wider family.

But their child wasn’t a tiny tot yet to be born – the party was for their eight-year-old daughter after she told them she no longer wanted to live as a boy

Ella Scott, eight, first told her parents that she didn’t feel like a boy inside when she was six.

Although mum Nikki, 38, and dad Graham, 39, thought their then son might be going through a phase, they soon realised their daughter was determined to begin her own trans journey.

Now the parents, along with Ella’s two younger brothers, Teddy, six, and Regan, five, decided to support Ella by hosting a gender reveal party to announce her journey to their extended family.

Nikki said “With Ella it’s like she always knew but we just didn’t.

“We always knew she was a little different, when she was little as she was always friends with girls and played with Frozen toys.

“I have two other children, Ella’s brothers, two cisgender boys who play rough but Ella never wanted to join in. At age six she wanted to start wearing girls clothes like skirts and dresses.

“I must admit with Ella being our first child and that being all we knew, I thought it might just be a phase. One Halloween we decided to let Ella pick her own costume and she wanted to be a cat so she wore a skirt and cat ears.

“Neither of us knew what the right thing to do was so we showed Ella books of trans people because she didn’t have the words to say it. Eventually, she did, she said I’m not a boy, I don’t feel like this inside.

“Me and her father were so confused asking ourselves if she was too young and were we doing the right thing. We wanted to ensure what we were doing wasn’t harmful or damaging.

“We arranged a consultation with a psychologist from our local child mental health centre Reach Out Centre for Kids and they ensured we were doing the right thing.

“From here we let Ella take the lead. In grade one she started using she/her pronouns, eventually growing her hair longer and wearing girls clothing.

“Ella did get upset when her hair wasn’t growing fast but apart from that she is a very happy girl with an upbeat character and has been throughout her journey.”

Ella has received an enormous amount of support throughout her journey from friends, family and peers.

“Grade one was confusing as some peers were saying she wasn’t a girl. However, we chose to move Ella and the rest of our kids.

“Ella’s new school was a perfect place for her to explore who herself further and her teachers have been so supportive too. She has a great group of friends around her as well.

“Family gave her the most supporting and loving reaction as expected when she came out. It’s her family, her home and that means her safe space.”

Ella’s mum Nikki set up an Instagram page dedicated to following Ella’s transition journey.

“When she transitioned I found loads of resources for youths but not for kids. In most local clinics the rules are that you need to start puberty before you can get in and that means Ella wouldn’t qualify.

“I want parents to feel they have a safe space because we didn’t have anyone else us to help at the start of our journey.

“My page is to raise awareness of transgender kids and a supportive community for the parents.”